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You Can't Manufacture A Mentor

Putting a mentoring or apprenticeship program in place is always a great idea. 

The opportunity to study and grow under someone that has been where you are and is where you want to be will be the first piece of advice that any coach or professional development guru will give you. 

For example, when I expressed interest in becoming an executive coach, I started to understand the industry and I asked people that were in it what their experiences were like. 

I met a lot of life coaches during my due diligence. In addition, there were a lot of people wanting to sell me coaching certifications.

I found a lot of people that were willing to help-- but finding one to mentor me -- not so much. 

The reason is that there is a deeper connection between a mentor and the one being mentored. 

I mean, I could want Tony Robbins to be my mentor, but if there isn't a personal connection, then neither one of us will want to be in the relationship. 

Mentoring is an organic process and cannot be manufactured. In order to grow a process organically, you have to create the environment that helps it thrive and flourish. 

Simply trying to institute a mentoring process will never work. 

"I told you so," management never works.

When you do find a mentor, understand that it's a rare and special find. So give as much as you take out of it. 

You'll be amazed at what it will do for you. 

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